Most of us can’t even imagine writing one novel, let alone the two fiction books you have already drafted. So, you are really in a very unique league already. And I certainly can’t imagine having my labor of love critiqued by someone else.
I love how you talk about not becoming a victim and blaming the editors for their lack of good taste. That is such a mature response and that is why you are banging your head instead of cutting off theirs! I think you have to give yourself kudos for not going there!
I wish I had a magic 8 ball that could predict the future but alas the magic 8 ball is out of commission and heck, I don’t have a clue! The only advice I have is the AA like mantra, “Take it one day at a time.” I have to believe that the road eventually reveals itself, but sometimes its a long snowstorm before it clears.